My first impression was, "so, it's basically a threesome?" Well, it's kind of like that, but it can be much more complicated. Anyway, if you know what polyamory is, I'd like to share my views. If you don't know what polyamory is, Wikipedia has all the answers!
To start, I'd like to say that I don't think I'd be a good candidate for polyamory. I'm very happy having one partner and I think he and I are both too jealous for either of us to be polyamorous. I just wouldn't be able to deal with my husband having another partner, and if he can't have another partner, I wouldn't feel that it would be fair for me to take on another one, either. Plus, I doubt he'd be okay with that.
Having said the above, I'm not against polyamory, and I'm not going to judge people who choose to live in polyamorous relationships. What goes on between consenting adults is up to them and is fine by me. Also, I understand it in a way. Watching a video of a group of 5 adults who have various polyamorous relationships within that group, I can see a sense of very close community and I can honestly say I sort of envy that community. As far as I can tell, polyamory is about sharing love, and it's not purely sexual in nature as compared to swingers who seem to put emphasis on multiple partners for recreational sex.
As far as sharing love, if there was a more platonic version of polyamory, I'd be jumping on the bandwagon right now! Of course, I have my own personal dilemmas when it comes to the bedroom, so having one lover is hard enough for me. However, living in a big house with your closest friends and their partners/spouses, or even just living on a compound of some sort in individual houses for each couple would be such an awesome experience and I'd love to have friends who are interested in that. In a way I do, but that's another post (writes note in phone for later)...
Blessed Be!
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I was looking around some more and found this blog post that I felt sheds some more light on the practice of polyamory and thought I would share.
I'm a one man gal myself ... having said that I was telling Hubby yesterday about my crush on Ryan Gosling and my "admiration" for Channing Tatum.... not quite the same thing is it? :-) xx
ReplyDeleteHaha, no I don't think so. I can only handle one man in my life as well! I just found it interesting :)
ReplyDeletehi tamra -
ReplyDeletejust found that you linked to my blog post about self-responsibility (you know - wordpress stats...) and i understand the ambivalent regarding such a lifestyle. although i have had some amount of experience at this, it is not easy to manifest and there is nothing wrong with even lifelong monogamy - but i would strongly suggest is that if one remains in monogamy out of fear/insecurity when one feels curious or drawn to such a possibility then you are missing out on a major opportunity for personal growth and expansion of joy and understanding. it is a huge joy to feel the love and experience the intimacy with those you love beyond the couple paradigm.
your link caused me to go back and review my post (it was written over a year ago) and i feel it is still accurate and expresses the basic tenants for starting such an adventure. best wishes!
Thank you, Ravi. I'm glad I could link to your blog post because it really helped me to understand polyamory. I personally have certain insecurities and fears that I feel would be best worked on in a monogamous relationship, if only because too many people in the mix would only complicate things. I may grow to the point where I can focus on the fear and insecurity that surrounds the idea of losing the person you love, however my husband may not.
DeleteAt the same time, I may have the opportunity to address polyamory in another life, as I believe this is certainly not my last or only one. :)